The Significance of Self-Belief

The significance of Self-Belief

Why is self-belief so important? Well, I believe that our self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth and our self-belief all work together to help shape our lives. I think it’s very difficult to have high self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth and a low sense of self-belief. I don’t think any of these terms can be in the negative and the other be in the positive. It’s like an incline graph. As self-esteem grows, so do the others. As self-confidence grows, so do the others. The same is true for self-belief. We can’t have a low sense of self-esteem or confidence and a high sense of belief in ourselves. So to positively shape our lives, it is absolutely imperative that we understand this. We must act as if we have so much belief in ourselves, that we could not fail. Of course this doesn’t guarantee success, but I don’t know of many people that have had major successes in life that did not believe they could achieve what they wanted.

5 Steps to Identify and Increase Your Self-Belief

1. Rate your usual level of self-belief from 1 to 10, with 10 being the strongest.

2. What one thing, more than any other, adds to your belief in yourself?

3. What one thing, more than any other, takes away from your belief in yourself?

4. How important do you think your level of self-belief is to your overall success and well-being? Why?

5. Name two or three things you could do more of to increase your belief in yourself.

Are there times in your life when you had to do something significant and your level of self-belief was at a 10? What results did you get? How did that feel? In contrast, keeping with the same idea, your level of self-belief was say 5 or less, even zero. What results did you get? How did that feel? I think it makes sense that when we are in a state of higher self-belief, we give ourselves a better chance to get a result.

Final Thoughts

The level of self-belief we have will most certainly play a part in the achievement of our personal endeavors. It may be difficult for us to have a higher level of self-belief at times. To help with that, practice the concept of self-belief by writing down any situation where you felt that your self-belief was low, and any situation where your self-belief felt especially high. Examine them and honestly try to understand where your belief stemmed from. Can that belief be different and what can you do to improve that for the future? (DJS)


Self-Harm: Why it Happens

It may surprise you to hear that even a person who ends their life is, in a strange way, seeking to preserve themselves. Not their physical existence, of course, but what they have left of their mental wellbeing. As an act of self-preservation in terms of their mental state, they end their life.

Nearly everyone is all guilty of similar thinking, though usually in less dire circumstances. For example, pretend you’ve done a beautiful job painting and decorating a room in your home.  You show it to a friend, who immediately ooh’s and aah’s over your work. How do you respond? For many of is, it’s something like, “Yes, it went pretty well. But see that corner over there? I couldn’t get that line straight.” In other words, we pick out the tiny flaw, magnified in our eyes, and pay little attention to the beauty our friend sees.

Wow! How do we allow a tiny flaw to ruin the whole experience of beauty? And we do this in so many aspects of our lives. The simple reason: It originates with a brain pattern.

There’s a brain pattern driving us to see everything (the whole) based on one little thing (the tiny flaw). If there is a flaw, then the whole thing is flawed, and there is no beauty. This kind of all-or-nothing thinking supports negative self-talk, poor self-image and – in extreme cases – thoughts of suicide. 

A far better option is to optimize our brain patterns to reduce and eliminate the all-or-nothing outlook.  In therapy or life coaching, we address the underlying issue that produces this thinking based on feelings of hopelessness, despair, and the sense that you can’t go on – a result of the imbalance in the brain.

These are feelings, not the total of our reality. This coaching/counseling technique allows the brain to return to a state of balance and harmony, from which flows a life that’s characterized not only by the will to live but also by the will to be our best self, with the ability to see the flaw as a flaw and not as the entire room