“How do these geese know when to fly to the sun? Who tells them the seasons? How do we, humans, know when it is time to move on? How do we know when to go? As with the migrant birds, so surely with us, there is a voice within, if only we would listen to it, that tells us so certainly when to go forth into the unknown.”
– Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
Trusting yourself is a major sign of surrendering to the flow. As in the above quote, the geese don’t argue about when it’s time to fly south, they just know. They seem to have a voice inside telling them, “It’s time.”
How can you begin to hear your own inner voice? Start by letting go of blame. Blaming other people and situations lets our egos feel safe, but it muffles our inner voice. The less victimized we feel by our background, work history, past relationships, health, age, etc., the louder our inner voice becomes. This is partly due to a reduction of the wrong noises caused by excess drama and partly due to your willingness to hear.
After hearing your inner voice, the next step is to trust. Trust what you hear and dare to act on it. This is a learned skill, and it takes a lot of practice. Don’t be alarmed if you act on something that seems like your inner voice and it proves to be something else. Sometimes our egos want to get into the game and will play tricks on us. Just like any skill, it takes practice to know the difference. How can you tell? It varies for each of us, but here’s a couple of tips:
Are you considering taking action based on being right? This is likely your ego, not internal wisdom.
Are you waffling back and forth about taking action? That is probably your ego, trying to be safe.
In these cases ask yourself, “If I knew I couldn’t do it wrong, what would I do?” This will give you an answer that is not coming from fear or ego.
Begin to notice how you feel when your inner voice leads you in the right direction. Pay special attention to the fact that what it says may not seem logical or rational. Your inner voice has a non-linear way of communicating. It’s your job to discover your own patterns and trust that, no matter what it looks like on the surface, there are good reasons to honor your internal wisdom. Looking back on a situation you feared, how often do you realize it was the best thing for you after all?
“The mark of your ignorance is the depth of your belief in injustice and tragedy. What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.”
– Richard Bach