Creating Your Ultimate Goal with Life Coaching

How Does Goal Setting Create Our Destiny?

Today we’re going to look at a few examples of how the goals we set and achieve can create our destiny.

  • Bill Gates had a goal of providing easy-to-use software for personal computers
  • Oprah Winfrey’s goal was to bring quality entertainment projects into production
  • Anthony Robbins’ goals included finding out why we do what we do and to help those in need of food and now feeds over 2,000,000 worldwide through his foundation.
  • Finally, one of my personal favorites, Herb Brooks had a goal of winning a Gold Medal at the Winter Olympics coaching the United States ice hockey team.

All these phenomenal people created their destinies by setting and achieving goals!

Get Control of Your Life by Setting Goals

Not only will a life coach help you set the right goals, but your chances of achieving your goals will increase as well. Setting goals and attaining them is how we create the destiny of our choice. Why? Without goals, we are leaving our destiny to chance – like a leaf falling from a tall tree on a windy day. The wind will take the leaf wherever it blows. The leaf does not its direction and ultimate destination. Does this analogy imply that goals give us control? Absolutely! If our daily goals are to get up, get to work and get through the day so we can make a living, what destiny will this create?

An excellent method to begin taking control of your destiny is to utilize goal setting, and a life coach can help you do that. Here are five easy-to-use, proven tips for achieving your goals and thus taking control of your destiny:

1. Decide what is realistically attainable for you in these areas: health, relationships, finances, career, spirituality, family, personal development and quality of life. Get specific.  Your life coach will help you identify the right goals in each area. Why set goals in all areas of our life? Because we want to have balance. Remember, success in these areas is measured differently for all of us. The point is to know exactly what you want and take action to make it happen.

2. Get leverage on yourself – you must decide that you want to achieve these goals and that you will not settle for anything less. What does leverage do? Leverage means that you have hit a threshold that says, “I want to change this NOW.” When we reach this threshold, we will take action toward our goals. Remember, goals without action are just wishes.

3. Set a deadline for each goal, a date and time if possible. Your life coach knows if you don’t set a date, it’s not a real goal. So, when will the goal be realized? How does this help? Making your goal time specific will help you know if you are on track to achieving your goal. Committing to your deadline will motivate you to take consistent action. In addition, knowing specifically when you want to complete your goal gives your mind clarity about when it has to be realized. This is a power in itself. I love the old saying, “clarity is power.”

4. Next, your life coach will help you create an action plan made up of small steps taken every day. Once again, goals without action are just wishes. If you don’t take action on a goal, is it possible fear is blocking you? Sometimes a goal will look so big our minds convince us the goal is not worth going through the pain of achieving it. One common block to goal reaching is the fear of failing.  Our minds tell us, “I’m going to fail anyway, so why bother trying?” Don’t get caught up in these mind games. Do you think the four people noted at the top of this article didn’t have fear? That’s doubtful.  But it’s obvious they did not let their fears stop them. Why? I believe they had a “whatever it takes” attitude. They didn’t let fear get in their way.

In the action plan stage, your life coach will help you identify the obstacles (physical, financial, and emotional) standing in your way, as well as steps to overcome them.  This will be your road map, getting you to your goal with small, clear, workable steps each day.   How does this help? Writing down your plan for goal attainment increases the chance you will follow through and take the actions written. Why? You know what action you need to take and when to take it. This is the power of clarity I mentioned earlier; Life coaching helps create higher levels of clarity. This clarity is so powerful you will create an unstoppable momentum, driving you to your goal!

5. Notice if the actions you are taking are giving you the results you want. This is how you measure whether or not you are achieving your goal. The life coach will help you identify this. If you are not moving towards achieving your goal, you need to change your actions. Why? If you keep taking the same actions, you will usually create the same results. This cause and effect relationship between your actions and the results must be monitored so you can modify them to produce the results you want. You wouldn’t keep spending money on advertising your product in the newspaper if it yielded you zero sales, right? If you see your method is not working, change it until you find something that does. You can speed up this process by talking to people that have already gotten the results you seek. Ask them how they did it and replicate their efforts!

With these 5 steps, life coaching can help you create the destiny of your choice. Do you want to be like the leaf, or do you want to be the captain of your ship and take it to your chosen destination? The choice is always ours to make. The difference will be evident when comparing our overall level of happiness in the past, present and future years to come. Moving towards a destiny of choice will create a happier, joyful and fulfilled life.

Start today by thinking about the kind of person you are. Are you happy with yourself and what you have achieved? Who are you becoming, and what or who are you dedicating your life to? If you’re happy with this, great! If not, I have a question for you: Are you willing to do something about it? If so, personal life coaching can help you on your journey of change.

If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.

–       Anthony Robbins, Personal Power

For things to change, we have got to change.

–       Jim Rohn


Every Day is Like a Deck of Cards

Every day is a new one. When we are little, we are taught that if you plan adequately, every day will go according to plan. Unfortunately, life doesn’t really do that in most instances.

Life is like a deck of cards. It gets shuffled every day and a new set of circumstances are presented, sometimes good, sometimes bad. Sometimes a good hand may stretch out for years, then suddenly…. the deck changes, as quick as croupier’s touch on the roulette wheel, or the flicked wrist of a blackjack dealer.  Often, the cards may seem to be stacked against you, day after day, year after year. After each shuffle, the cards fall again in the wrong sequence.

Is there a way you can change this course of destiny?  In a way; No life exists without adversity, no matter how much money or power you have. But those who are positive and creative in facing that adversity cope better than those who don’t.

Take the example of a rich couple with full, happy lives, who suddenly have the child they’ve always wanted.  The cards seem to be shuffling in their favor, right?  Then the child is born with a serious birth defect.  A shuffle goes against them.  BUT, aren’t they uniquely prepared – with their strong love for each other and larger income – to deal with this situation?  A positive and creative viewpoint can make even the “bad hands” easier to deal with.

What about a man who is only a couple years from retirement when his employer goes out of business?  That’s a pretty tough hand to be dealt.  Suppose that man stayed positive, remained willing, and was eventually offered a consulting job at higher pay?  A good shuffle!  But he had to wait, sit there with his bad cards but stay in the game, believing that each day was a chance for a new hand.

You can also do some things to “stack the deck”, and prepare yourself for the days when the bad cards are dealt:

  • Educate yourself and your children. There’s no excuse for any child to miss out on an education in life skills, math, and science. 
  • Save a little money every day. Start with $1 a day, literally taking it out of your pocket and putting it in your cookie jar.  Eventually, this habit will become automatic and so easy you will find it possible to sock away $5 a day, or sometimes even $10.  Why, in 20 years you may just be able to retire!
  • Find creative ways to make do with less.  Then you’ll appreciate it when you are able to splurge. For example, pay down your mortgage as quickly as you can so that you save thousands of dollars in interest payments.
  • Buy on credit only so that you have a good credit rating.  This may go against the advice of others, but remember you are paying off that credit balance immediately, before costly interest payments build up.
  • Live within your means, but aspire always to more so that you continually grow, prosper and improve yourself.

If today’s shuffle deals you a raw hand, just shrug it off because a new deal is coming tomorrow!