Most people have a few hidden secrets.
None of them are true, but they are things about ourselves are hope that nobody finds out.
This is why a friendly conversation can sometimes turn adversarial, when one or both parties feels like the other person is getting close to that “secret” part of us.
This can sometimes come across as feeling on some level that we are “faking it” or that we are somehow an imposter and people knew the truth they’d kick us out.
This is one of the main reasons behind self-sabotage. Whenever you start becoming successful, you start to feel like you’re “playing above your skill level.” Maybe you start making some money, start losing weight, or start doing social things you didn’t do before.
But part of you is terrified of being found out. Of people looking at you and saying something like, “What are YOU doing here? You don’t belong!”
This is common, no matter who you are, or what you’ve accomplished.
Paradoxically, for many ultra-successful people, the more successful they become, the worse this fear gets. It’s as if they are always running away from an invisible demon always right behind them.
Of course, this is just a mental construct. Everybody has a hard time understanding themselves, let alone being able to look into your soul with x-ray vision.
Which is why when you accept others, you will be like a super hero.
When you radiate an aura that says, “I like you, and I accept you JUST the way you are,” people will be drawn to you like bees to honey.
Of course, in order to first accept others, you’ve got to completely accept yourself.
Some daily quiet time inside your mind is PERFECT for this. Just sit and accept yourself. Appreciate yourself. All of yourself. The good parts AND the “bad” parts.
When you get pretty good at this, you can do this little exercise when you’re out among others. As you appreciate yourself, appreciate others as well.
This simple exercise can open up a whole new world of possibilities, one you may have never seen before.