Overcoming Unexpected Obstacles
There are a lot of very cliche sayings that have some powerfully deep truths.
Take the super corny one, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”
Sounds like some t-shirt slogan you’d find in the $.99 bucket, right?
But let’s dig a little deeper.
Say you’ve got some plans. Maybe big plans, maybe not so big.
If you’re like most people, you start out like gangbusters, and then run into trouble.
Maybe things didn’t go as smoothly as you thought. Maybe you ran into some unexpected obstacles.
Maybe when you told other people they looked at you like you were crazy or something.
There’s also a very powerful technique in coaching called “utilization.”
This means that you, as the coach, have a strong intention. No matter what the client or customer says during the conversation, you simply weave it into your language, and use it. You don’t resist it. You don’t wish they didn’t say it. You have the attitude that everything that they do, you can use to get closer to your outcome.
Nothing we choose to do ever goes without a hitch, except super safe and super boring stuff that anybody can do. (Like watching familiar TV shows on our familiar houses while we eat familiar comfort food).
In order to get the REALLY good stuff, we’ve GOT to fall on our faces. Not just once or twice, but on a regular basis.
This is probably the BIGGEST thing that keeps people from achieving their dreams. They somehow bought into the notion that it should be easy or simple or risk free.
So when they run into obstacles, they figured they’d been cheated or conned or the “world is against them.”
But what happens when you see everything that happens, good AND bad, as instructive events to help you get closer?
If you’ve ever been in sales, you’ve likely heard another super corny yet super true statement:
“Every no is one step closer to a yes.”
Now, here’s a weird question.
When you come across those “obstacles” that seem to hold you back, who decided they were obstacles?
Do they HAVE to be thought of as obstacles? If you think of them as learning experiences, are the thought police going to pop out of nowhere and write you a ticket?
Every experience, especially ones you’ve never experienced before, will give you more experience. (huh?)
And every time you come up against an unknown experience, you’ll automatically try and recall all your past similar experiences. The more of those you’ve got, the better you’ll do.
When most people come up against an obstacle, they usually complain. “Oh WHY does my life hurt so much?”
What about you? What do you think?
What happens when you think this instead:
“Hmm. Interesting. How can I use this?” (a coaching reframe)
With the right frame of mind, this can be your “go to” mindset, making everything a LOT easier.