There’s a game we play. It sounds so reasonable that almost everyone agrees to play it with you – which is largely because they play it too!
It’s called the “When/Then Game” – and it will eat your life away, if you’re not careful.
Of course, you don’t know it by that name and you don’t think of it as a game.
Most of us think of it as being intelligent and rational, but the cumulative effect of playing it year in, year out is pain.
Sometimes that can even become real, physical pain too.
Let me give you an example of what I mean…
A woman loves to paint and she’s a good artist. In her teens and early twenties lots of people encouraged her to exhibit her work.
She tried a few times, had some moderate interest and then … along came love, kids, her thirties, a home to look after … and her art gathered dust, literally and metaphorically.
One day, she’s talking to a friend who’s knowledgeable about art. With a little persuasion she shows him some of her work and the friend enthuses wildly.
He urges her to pick up her professional career again.
The woman’s passion is rekindled. But what does she say?
“Oh, when the kids are a bit older, perhaps…” Or maybe she says, “I don’t know if I’m good enough. Maybe if I took some more classes…”
How many ways do you play the “When/Then Game?”
When … some money comes in … my parents have gone … the kids have grown up …” On and on we go, never quite living our dreams.
Tony Robbins called procrastination, “the thief of time.” You will not get your life back, solive it today.
Here are my top 5 things to do before time steals the chance away from you:
1. Find some way to live your dream today. In my example, the woman could get a website made to exhibit her art, for example. No need to even leave the house!
2. Jettison emotional vampires. Some relationships just cling to you because the people feed off your positive energy – but they don’t replenish you or reciprocate. They just take up your time and energy with the result that they feel better after connecting with you, but you don’t.
3. Find your spiritual path and get comfortable in it. You don’t have to be religious to be spiritual, but as you get older, the inner nudges from questions about who you are, why you’re here and what will become of you once you’re gone get stronger. What is your relationship with God?
If you’re still singing the same old tune, such as, “Oh I don’t believe in any of that claptrap,” as you were when you were fifteen, just because it’s easy to trot out whenever the subject comes up…
…Check in with yourself and ask yourself if that still feels good to you.
4. Start looking after your body properly now. You don’t have to work out five times a week to stay healthy, but if you want your body to last a long time don’t just treat it cosmetically – nourish it with good foods, avoid excessive toxins and move regularly, even if it’s dancing round your living room or walking for 1/2 hour daily.
5. Give something back that makes you feel good every day. The most fulfilling feeling in the world is doing something good for somebody.
You don’t need to be a saint. You can give free stuff, like kindness, praise, thanks and even hugs if appropriate.
Just make it your intention that everyone you encounter is going to feel better than before they bumped into you – even if they only serve you coffee or petrol (gas).
My desire is for you to be a lot more aware of when you’re playing the “When/Then Game”
Catch yourself doing this. Because now is the time for your happiness. You will not get your life back… so live it today. (DJS)