Our values determine which emotions are most important to us. For example, which of the following emotions are most important to you? Put another way, which do you want to feel on a consistent basis?
Now, ask yourself, what do I need to do to feel these emotions? For example, what do you need in order to feel love? The answer to that question becomes a rule we define for ourselves, telling us what needs to happen for us to experience the desired emotions. Action/circumstance = Desired emotion
Our rules can support us, as in, “To feel freedom I need to work for myself in a business that I love,” or they can hold us back, as in, “To feel freedom no one can ever tell me what to do, so I can never work in a team.”
What are your rules? Are you using them to push yourself forward, or to hold yourself back?
What we commit to do is where the rubber meets the road. It’s our actions that propel us toward our desired outcomes. Thinking about it, planning it, wondering about it are all parts of the process, but not the whole package.
You must act. Without action, there’s too much room for fear and doubt. Have you ever thought, “I’d like to do that,” about something challenging, then had too much time to think about it? Did you talk yourself out of it? What did you focus on? How easy it would be, or on what could go wrong? How many times does fear stop you?
Commitment to action is the only way to get where we want to be. Action becomes a habit. The more we do it, the more we get used to it, the easier it becomes, even with the challenging stuff.
What are three actions you could commit to today, that would propel you towards your desired outcomes? If you want more joy in your life, what is something you can do today that will make you smile? It doesn’t have to be a huge thing. It can be any little something that allows you a secret (or not so secret!) smile of pleasure.
The quality of our life is determined by how we choose to conduct ourselves, what we choose to believe in, what we value and what we commit to doing. We have the power to choose all of these things. That is the most valuable power there is: The freedom to choose, in each instant, who we want to be.